A quick story about how Tune's husband returned after being separated for years. He discusses how he was searching for something in other people that only Tune might offer him. Feeling accepted was what brought him back after all that they went through together. They are now happily married and Melody leads our workshops and coaching department.
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Why My Husband Came Back After Years Of Separation #shorts
I’m happy for you. It’s hard to accept a spouse when they are drinking and smoking in excess.
Acceptance means not approving. Acceptance means regardless of what they say or do, you still accept them who they are, not their actions.
I understand
Yes how can you make someone feel accepted while simultaneously not condoning? Is it ok for me to say to my spouse I love you no matter what, and because I want the best for you I hope you stop this or that behavior? Or does that convey lack of acceptance?
It is a dream to think there will ever be someone who accepts me the way I’m accepting him. Willing to put up with the most heinous flaws and gut punches and keep smiling and hoping. Does your husband accept you like that now, Melody? Because I’m sure when he left, that didn’t convey acceptance..
@Maggie Etheridge-Ureno acceptance is definitely the hardest concept to understand. It doesn’t mean accepting the behavior. But I believe it is more like a good person who is doing a bad thing. Keep working on your PIES so that you can be the best version of yourself. I’m sorry that it hurts, but your self worth/happiness can’t be up to someone else. Just keep believing that the future will be better than now.
Sometimes it takes some time for some people to have their personal epiphony, in order to see themselves inside their own lives, and change for the better.
After 28 years of marriage, my husband and I separated for four years. We reconnected on Thanksgiving and it’s been amazing! Thank God, neither one of us ever filed for that divorce!
How do you accept your spouse while they are living contrary to what’s best? (Living in affair, anger, drugs, choosing LO over children, leaving marriage via divorce). Is there a video on this I can refer to?
Hmmmmm