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Thank you!! I needed this at this exact moment.
Don’t get a state marriage license, ever. Matthew 19:6 (NASB)
“So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, no person is to separate.”
God joins you together in marriage covenant. The state does not.
I agree. It’s two different agreements that is misunderstood by 99% of the people. State marriage is between three parties (STATE plus two other people representing two fictional entities excluding God from the agreement) while Biblical marriage is also between three parties (God and a man and a woman). State marriage is a financial partnership of sorts where the dissolution of the partnership results in a redistribution of assets. The children are “given” to the State through the birth certificate registration when that stewardship of the children was given to us by God, but we gave it away. Why do we do this? Because we are deceived. I was fooled and now I’m trying to fix this mess and what a mess it is.
It is difficult, I’m divorced. I was told to love is a choice, and stared at by the pastor. So yes I was made to feel guilty for leaving my cheating husband, who never came home. No one needs to make me feel guilty I already condemn myself. I didn’t get married to get divorced. But neither am I a doormat, you cannot force someone to love you, no matter how nice you are to the other person. Best explanation so far. God hates divorce because he knows how hurtful it is, He doesn’t want it for his children. Some churches think exactly that it is a rule that cannot be broken, you should stay in abandonment, whilst the husband lives with another woman and has a child with her. Even then I was told love is a choice. I didn’t want to get divorced but didn’t think I had a choice but to get divorced he did not want me.
I’m sorry. You and so many others including myself are in a tough spot. How do we honor God and be faithful to him? This life is full of suffering and pain. We don’t have to remain in some situations. Forgiveness and love is a choice. Suffering is sometimes a choice. Trust is a choice. On the other hand, church discipline is also a choice. Your husband should be disciplined and discipline is a very loving thing to do, so you can love your husband by invoking correct discipline and accountability and leave the results up to God. Love doesn’t necessarily mean tolerating a sinning husband. Changing that man is easy for God to do, but God’s ways are not our ways. Hang in there. If your pastor doesn’t believe in church discipline, then find a church that does.
God is a God of Restoration –he can restore broken marriages
Thankyou I have gone down a long and very painful walk with a husband who has done all the abandonment issues, continual adultery and emotional abuse and I gave him every opportunity and encouragement to walk Godly..though he professes this be a Christian. He has finally discarded me and now I can go forward with God I peace knowing I did everything He put in my heart to help try to salvage not only the marriage but also the man. He threw it all away because he does not want to give up his other women and golden calf of sexual immorality.
At the end of the day scripture says it is wrong to get divorced. If I married again I am committing adultery. That is what the Bible tells me. It’s between a rock and a hard place. Live a separated life, refusing a divorce, whilst he lives with another person. If I could rewind time, the red flags were there. If a man won’t refuses to get help outside help marriage counseling, don’t marry him. You need outside help, you got someone refusing to talk there isn’t slot of alternative.
Hi love, I think you need more reading of the scripture. Divorce is permitted in the Bible where there is adultry & you are permitted to marry again if you’re divorced for this reason. See: Matthew 5:31-32, 1 Corinthians 7:15, Matthew 19:9.
God knows the men he made & is not set out to condemn his daughters who are in unfaithful marriages. You’re free and free in Christ
I would expect better from this channel. The marriage is to reflect the covenant between Christ and the church. You left out forgiveness, mercy, grace, and repentance. God wants a changed heart. Jesus said Moses permitted divorce because the hardness of heart. God doesn’t want a hard heart. God made marriage and he can change and save any marriage that both people will submit themselves to him and his word. Unfortunately you added a lot of opinion to God’s word instead of presenting God’s word alone. The real tragedy is when a person doesn’t give themselves to God for transformation because that means they’re lost and possibly going to spend eternity in hell separated from God.
He talks about what Jesus said about adultery (Jesus actually said, “fornication”), but then adds his own additional reasons to divorce. I believe you should separate physically for safety if there is abuse, and there should be accountability and oversight as you work towards healing the marriage, but we can’t start adding to scripture and telling people they can divorce for a whole list of reasons that the Bible does not authorize.
Many of you are wondering what are the grounds of divorce and remarriage…
Moses gave the certificate of divorce for the hardness of man’s heart but individuals were not permitted to remarry. Divorce and remarriage is only permitted through death or fornication Not adultery/sexual immorality( Read the most accurate translation KJV). These are two different words(definitions). Fornication is sex before marriage, Adultery is sex outside your marriage.
In those days a man was under the assumption that he was marrying a virgin. A nurse would stand outside the tent with a towel as they consummated(had sex) the marriage, if blood was not present and the female hymen was not broken she was found not to be a virgin. Because he married her under false pretense he was allowed to divorce her and remarry. Anyone else who divorces there spouse is to remain single or reconciled back to there spouse if they haven’t remarried. If they enter into another relationship they are living in Adultery…
Matt 5:32-But I say unto you, That whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.
Matt 19:9- And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except [it be] for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.
Mark 10-12-And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery.
Luke 16:18-Whosoever putteth away his wife, and marrieth another, committeth adultery: and whosoever marrieth her that is put away from [her] husband committeth adultery.
1Cor 7:39-The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord. But she is happier if she so abide, after my judgment: and I think also that I have the Spirit of God.