Trust After An Affair – Surviving Infidelity In Marriage
Affairs don't have to be deadly to a marital relationship, although they frequently are. Esther Perel, couples therapist and author of Mating In Captivity, states an affair can really lead to a brand-new and terrific relationship.
why is there a need for privacy when you don’t have anything to hide?
I don’t know but if someone cheats on you, I think that person doesn’t like you anymore and is trying to find someone else. He or she will not cheat on you if the person still likes you, pure and simple and if ever the cheat wants to be back its because he or she is just tied up with marriage. There is a saying by cheaters in our country, no one want to eat the same food all those years. I guess that how cheaters are.
No, this is not right at all! This is NOT a solution, it will make it worse!
There is no other road to go, JUST FORGIVE, or LEAVE and move on with your life. Every storm brings with it hope that somehow by morning everything will be made clean again, and even the most troubling stains would have disappeared, so we wait for the storm to pass, hoping for the best even though we know in our hearts some stains are indelible nothing can wash them away. Be patient! Do what your mind and heart is telling you to do. Good luck!
I can forgive, but wont forget. Even though a forgive i wont be with that person anymore beacuse the trust wont be the same, nothing will be the same in that matter so is best to break up and move on no matter how much you care and love that person. That is what I think
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if you do that then you are no better than the other person, don’t sink into that level you will only feel worse
once a cheater, always a cheater. NEVER stay with someone who cheats on you. It’s just giving them the green light to do it again by staying with them. Move on with your life. They will get what’s coming to them eventually.
This woman has a serious problem distinguishing a marital problem from a promiscuity problem.
Cheating is an individual failing… you don’t blame the couple or the relationship for what two OTHER people do in secret behind the betrayed person’s back.
You don’t blame the injured spouse or the marriage if someone is drinking to excess do you? You don’t blame the injured spouse or the marriage if someone is violent do you?
Of course not, you recognize that ONE individual in the partnership can’t control themselves and deal with that as an individual. This crap about discussing marriage and promiscuous behavior in the same context is just asinine and stupid.
If your spouse is promiscuous or has a promiscuous history, they are high risk.
Stop blaming the betrayed spouse because their partner can’t behave like a grown adult.
I cannot agree more, well said.
It’s interesting that while 43000 people watched this video about surviving and rebuilding AFTER betrayal, only 6000 watched the Esther Perel companion video (How to Understand Infidelity – Dealing With Infidelity) about why affairs occur in the first place.
thefreakyboutiki are they blaming the person cheated on for the affair taking place
There are many things “between the lines” when I saw the video, just the good things that experts such as Treitan Mellory always talk about that actually work, search for him on google and you’ll see what I mean.
People do it for various reasons and we know not why. It’s not justifiable, but it’s still wrong. It’s not just narrowed down to men as it always is. Women are just as guilty. I don’t agree with once a cheater always a cheater. People do change as long as they’re willing to make the choice to do so and are on purpose about it. I understand the trust is broken, but it’s not beyond repair. Who are we to judge what a couple chooses to do anyway. If they choose to fix it, then by all means handle your business and be a testimony to all. It only makes them a fool if there was no change in the behavior.
Im my book .. Trust never comes back. its just dealing with the after effects of it.
I disagree, keeping to yourself only creates more damage. If you did something incorrect at work or any other means and hid it and kept it to yourself the damage can magnify.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, good points you have made!
These are the perfect example of the type of woman to not get hooked up with.
What a crock. If the betrayed person wants transparency give it. When you step out on a spouse you dont deserve privacy for a long time.
I tried to have this conversation with my ex husband and he refused and got angry. He had the affair and it was also with my married best friend. I was willing to try and he said no way. I never realized he was a narcissist. At least i tried.
Just don’t get back together after an affair
Going through one right now husband of 11 years slept with his “business partner” I always thought it but had no proof. He and she called me crazy for 3 years, made me question my integrity. I am hurt. Took a hand full of sleeping pills and sitting in emergency. Not for him or her, for me. I wanted to be set free from the pain and humiliation. I forgive him and her, I have to but soo hurt right now
I disagree 100% with you. They must tell you everything or leave. Period. Secrets are a death nail. You are wrong.
Never forgive a cheater cut them loose. I have never cheated and never will. No more excuses for cheaters. There are good people who never get that first chance and they end up alone because of forgiveness for cheaters. It needs to stop now!!!