When attempting to heal from extramarital relations or dependency, it's unavoidable we will encounter myths surrounding what healing from extramarital relations needs along with what healing 'ought to' and 'need to not' appear like. It's unfortunate that numerous who have been through this tragedy would make their experience everyone's experience by giving suggestions that's not 100% true or accurate or for everybody. Today Samuel shares a couple of common and destructive myths that both unfaithful and betrayed partners come in contact with, however don't have to stay put behind bars to.
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Samuel is a cheating survivor and is one of many contributors to Affair Recovery's Survivors' Blog site,. He took part in Affair Healing's courses developed by creator and cheating specialist Rick Reynolds, LCSW. After discovering healing, hope, and brand-new life, Samuel wants to share his journey and what AffairRecovery.com needs to provide with others so they too can discover hope and recovery.
Thank you for this
in this day and age, it seems corny, but thank you for being thankful and sharing some kindness out there. appreciate it so much and so glad it helped.
A year out from d-day I am searching for stories of hope and redemption. We have done full therapeutic disclosure, Impact Letter, Restitution Letter, he goes to several 12 meetings per week, has a sponsor, he has been sober from SA, we both go to individual therapy one day a week, I am doing betrayal trauma work, and we are in such a great place. We have never been closer and we fell in love again. This has changed both of us for the better spirituality, mentally, and relationally. I want to yell from the mountain tops and online support groups “There is hope!”. When I try to share this with other betrayed women, they are hurt because they don’t have the same circumstances or experiences. It comes of as invalidating their feelings or being insensitive. How do I share hope without hurting others? Sometimes betrayed partners share a similar story to mine, but a couple of years down the road their husband relapses and acts out. That causes such shame and embarrasment for the wife that has been sharing hope and healing all along. It’s a dilemma to be hopeful without being sensitive or over confident, so often I stay quiet or leave groups that are negatively focused. I hope this makes sense. Thank you and everyone at Affair Recovery for providing free resources and hope to the betrayer and the betrayed.
thank you for the kind words. i’m so glad you both are doing so well. i think being empathetic to those who are struggling and being kind and patient is key. sometimes, people who are in crisis and struggling don’t want to hear about how good it is for others….they just want to be heard and validated and cared for where they are. i’m not saying you’re doing anything wrong at all…i’m just saying it’s been my experience that many in crisis want comfort and a “i get it and you’re safe here’ more than anything else. i hope that helps.
thankyou Sam
my pleasure. thank you for the kind words.
These videos are very helpful. Thank You…
honored to help in some small way. thank you.
This is my second marriage, this is the second time I have married a cheater. The first one I had 4 children with my youngest was 6 months old, I kicked him out, because I was sick of his affairs. My second husband is a porn addict. He has until March 13th next year, which 2 years 8 months out from 2nd d day. Also 1 year out from him hitting me, and in house separation began. I set boundaries, I am not afraid of being alone. I raised those 4 children on my own, working jobs I hated, went to school to become a nurse. Now I am older, wiser, I am strong, and will overcome this.
Thats exactly how how feel when my wife wants to talk about it, you hit the nail on the head when you said its something i dont want to talk about it because of the shame, failure i feel and the hurt that i have caused. Your videos have been a life saver for me and my wife and we appreciate you. Thank you so much for the time that you put into this. I hope that we can meet you sometime. We live in San Antonio, not far from you.
We watch your videos especially when we have hit those hard to make it days. Thank you again, your friend Raul.
100%. Thank you for this wisdom. We have gone through enormous healing and transformation from the work we’ve done with the help of Affair Recovery. We owe our new strengthened marriage to you. EMS Weekend was what launched us and continues to guide us. Thank you, thank you.