Shame after an affair is a really genuine thing. Whether it was you or your partner who was unfaithful, if you want any chance at conserving the marriage and making it stronger than it was previously, you require to deal with embarassment.
We discuss what to do when attempting to fix up with an unfaithful partner who is living in pity in today's video.
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Unfaithful Spouse Living In SHAME – Is Reconciliation Even Possible?
Your not gonna say “ I love you anyway” when they continue the adultery and divorce you harshly.
So sorry to hear you are going through this Christine. We agree in the sense that you need to protect yourself! Our first rule is to GET SAFE FIRST. If they are abusive physically or emotionally, things need to be worked out first before you can work on the marriage. However, it actually sounds like you could benefit from taking part in our Boundaries Toolkit! Have you heard of that before? It’s an online course to help you set what we teach in regards to boundaries. It essentially helps to reframe your mind away from using boundaries as a way to control, and instead using STOP’s and CORE’s (Marriage Helper terminology) to help you PROTECT yourself and your family from further damage. We strongly advice you look into it! You can find it here:
https://marriagehelper.com/boundaries-in-marriage-toolkit/
That’s what I had done. Your spouse should see you are honest that his actions have hurt you but you’re still there praying for his healing and is ready to accept him.
Exactly! Acceptance is the key to love. Also, consistency over time is what will bring positive change! Keep working on becoming the best version of yourself, practice SMART Contact, take it one day at a time! We are here for you if and when you need us. ❤️