Ever question why certain habits can predict divorce with over 80% accuracy? Today, we unpack the mystery of one such habits referred to as 'stonewalling', alongside the other three horsemen of the relationship apocalypse: defensiveness, criticism, and contempt. Our deep-dive into Dr. John Gottman's groundbreaking research study at the Love Lab, exposes how these devastating behaviors can send a relationship spiraling downward.
But it's not all doom and gloom! We also explore the antidote to stonewalling, using real-life examples and practical steps to conquer it. Find out the value of courageously stopping briefly the conversation, making the effort to cool off, and process. Strengthen your relationships by comprehending these patterns and making mindful efforts to alter them. Let's journey together towards healthier, more satisfying relationships.
Time Stamps:
0:00 – The "4 Horsemen" of divorce, focusing on stonewalling.
1:28 – Interaction patterns in harmful relationships.
4:13 – Communication and dispute resolution.
5:41 – Stonewalling in relationships.
8:38 – Improving interaction in marital relationship.
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Kimberly and the whole team at MH, thank you for your work with marriages. You have helped my husband and me in many ways. I used smart contact during a difficult time, and it worked. I thank the LORD for you all. 🙂
Thank you for this clarification… I hope we make it that stone walling thing is real
The phrase in the UK is “Don’t go to bed on in amongst an argument”. Great work.
I’m today’s era, people have to become psychologist before they get married.
Stonewalling is painful, and will quickly separate people
Interesting that closing off is stonewalling. What do you expect someone to do when they’ve tried to respectfully talk but the other person is still treating you the same. You’re eventually just going to check out cause talking does nothing.
Also what do you do when you trying to have a disagreement with your spouse and they fly off the handle? Every time I disagree or the kids disagree she just loses her mind and starts yelling about she doesn’t understand why everyone wants to argue and fight.
Don’t let the sun go down on your anger is a Biblical principle. Ephesians 4:26 27 this is for Bible believing Bible obeying Born Again Christians that can actually be mature about a situation because what happens as Ephesians explains that you give the slanderer a door to make things worse while you sleep. This is definitely not a worldly concept