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1. Hi 🙂 Love your channel, learning lots! I do have a question, my husband takes off on me and the children for hours if I ask him to help around the home more and help more with the kids. If I try to discuss a problem that needs to be discussed and he doesn’t want to talk about it, he will take off on me out the door. He will stay out hours in his car with tons of time to himself when he could have been helping me, then come back with a coffee for me instead. He thinks that will fix everything and it clearly doesn’t. This has been ongoing for a very long time and I’m so hurt, upset and angry inside.

   I’ve texted him about it, tried to talk to him about it nicely, yelled about it, etc. No way seems to help. The only thing that keeps the peace is if I don’t ask him to do anything and then I’m left to do everything myself and I’m exhausted. He then gets to sleep, lay around or stay on his phone for hours at home if I do everything myself which is not fair to me at all. It hurts cause I’ve told him so many times that taking off on me hurts my feelings and all I’m asking for is to be heard. Any advice? Thank you and God bless you!

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   1. Our efforts are to help marriages but not issues. When your marriage is working, when you are learning to love your husband with all your heart, mind, and soul, you will not have these kinds of problems.

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   2. @The Marriage Foundation I do have both of your books and about to start reading them, I’m watching a lot of your videos to learn as I’m a visual learner and hoping to get the course in the future when I can afford it. I thought showing my husband love would be to ask him kindly to help me instead of yelling and trying to explain my wants in a nice calm manner. But that didn’t work either so I am feeling lost.

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   3. It is about substance, not form. I suggest you read what you have so your understanding deepens.

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