Selecting to marry and share your life with someone is among the most essential choices you can make in life. However with divorce rates approaching half in some parts of the world, it's clear we might use some assistance picking a partner. In an actionable, eye-opening talk, psychiatrist George Blair-West shares three secrets to avoiding divorce– and identifying prospective problems while you're still dating.
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Having a partner that supports you on your journey to success can have a big influence! I found this very valuable! ❤
Cheers for the Video! Forgive me for butting in, I would appreciate your initial thoughts. Have you heard the talk about – Taparton Saving Family Takeover (Sure I saw it on Google)? It is an awesome one of a kind guide for helping a troubled marriage minus the headache. Ive heard some great things about it and my m8 finally got cool results with it.
@EnekonGaming right! You don’t want to marry anyone that’s unable to think about what’s best for the two people desiring marriage. See a person convinced that it’s about them and how they think things should go….the marriage is doomed.
That’s true
You should also support your partber
Agreed, my husband have my back in every to the fullest
A good, strong marriage is the absolute best thing in the world. The problem is the world is currently doing everything it can to make it impossible.
Yes see this is the problem and kids have to be taught about the propaganda against them
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As a man, marriage seems flat out dangerous now. The state can’t wait to drop the hammer on a husband and father once the wife decides she changes her mind about being married.
Being married sucks
Three factors:
1. Sincere love
2. Genuine respect
3. Open communication
Everything else follows.
infidelity is a huge issue.
Thats probably true, sounds it
My best advice is to never get married
Insecurity kills a relationship
Great talk, especially if you’re not married yet. It really puts all the insecurities you develop while thinking about marriage into words
The subject is important not only to those looking to get married, but also to really anyone looking for a relationship. You both have to treat each other well if you want it to be lasting and meaningful, that’s the bottom line really.
This is probably the most accurate and powerful message that I would deliver to all of the young people who so hurry to get married and have babies. I agree with the speaker, these two are the most important decisions we make in life and need to be approached with careful consideration and thought.
Tetyana H what about the eggs?? Don’t the eggs get older and not as good over the years? If a woman doesn’t lock down a high value male when she is at her highest smv she likely won’t get the man she always wanted. Then divorce and walk off with the seed because of hypergamy
Often ignored piece of advice: Don’t be emotionally dependent on your partner and/or don’t be in a relationship with someone who is emotionally dependent on you.
I don’t mean emotionally attached; that’s different (and positive).
I mean thought processes along the lines of ‘My partner is the reason I’m not in a state of depression or suicidal thoughts’ or ‘I’m not a productive member of society without my partner’.
Lovely Video clip! Sorry for butting in, I would love your thoughts. Have you thought about – Taparton Returning Love Takeover (just google it)? It is a smashing one of a kind product for learning how to stop divorce minus the headache. Ive heard some extraordinary things about it and my best friend Jordan at very last got great results with it.
There are several ideas for making improvements in your marriage
Try to discuss more
Cooperate with each other more
Start to give and take more
(I learned these and the reasons they work on Pavs partner pundit website )
this is so true !
My best advice is to never get married
Get older before you get married
Be Influenceable
Be Reliable – have your partner’s back
…This really needs to be in the description. It doesn’t steal the thunder, it makes the points easier to remember later.
I preached this in my 20s….and my peers scoffed. Thought I was being shallow and judgmental with potential partners. I’m glad my thinking is validated. It’s so hard finding someone good. I’m hoping this will change in my 30s.
Keep sweetness flowing always and learn to compromise whenever misunderstanding arises. Never end the day with unresolved issues. Keep love flowing and intimacy must always present wherever.
Probably one of the most thoughtful comment sections I’ve seen on youtube. Cheers to the informed, analytical and skeptical – millennials or otherwise!
If you are new to a marriage, please understand that you will struggle in the beginning. You both need time. Time to just live out issues together and try working them out in different ways. Being new to this, you may not know how he/she will react to certain things.. Please do not give up!
Marriage is about 1) commitment and doing all duties
2) discipline
3) social intelligence to know how to talk and behave in different situations
4) patience
good insight
Yes
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I am a 39 year old male and I found happiness with my wife who is 40 years old 10 years ago. We met when i was completing my PhD and she was a graduate student. She divorced an incompetent man wherein made her miserable. We are so compatible and I thank God for her. She is everything, I mean everything i ever wanted in a woman. I do my best for her. Well, what i am trying to say it’s all about trust. We even share online accounts, everything is transparency within us. I think it’s where it all starts. Respect and transparency.
I don’t know about the sharing accounts bit. For me personally, I believe there has to be some level of privacy, along with each of us being their own person. Of course we should be transparent when needs be about that privacy, and clear any existing doubts, but sharing every single thing isn’t always good, and that does not mean that one is hiding something, or one is cheating, etc.
uhhh…. careful man. all this sounds a lot like euphoria.
you are sharing accounts, because SHE has trust issues, good luck with that
Kahlil Gibran in The Prophet-
And you stand together,
Yet not too near together
Let there be space in your togetherness
Well done!trust is what is number one .
Build a happy marriage by focusing on each other. Pay attention to everything even take notes if you have to. Take care of your spouse and in turn they will take care of you. Also, be yourself and allow your spouse to be themselves. Create a space space for each other to grow and become comfortable.
so true
What a great talk!
“When you realize you want to spend the rest of your life with somebody, you want the rest of your life to start as soon as possible.
“True love is not a hide and seek game, True love both partners seek each other”
“The first thing you wanna get before you get married is older”… this is gold. In African communities you are shamed if as a female, you are passed 27 and are not married yet. God forbid you reach 30 and you are still single, then everybody thinks something is wrong with you. Your family starts putting pressure on you and that’s how many end up just marrying the first guy who proposes and looks like he has a little bit of money. I’ll let you guess how things will go down the line. And as if that wasn’t enough, you are considered a failure if you get divorced. Then women just get stuck in these dysfunctional marriages where they are abused just to keep up appearances and save face.
getting married is something that you can always go for it ,but staying as a couple is an art.
Very nice Video Sir! Communicating with your spouse is one of the best ways to keep your marriage healthy and successful. Spending time together it avoid Divorce.